Are you damaged, do you need to be fixed?

Who’s idea is it anyway that you’re broken? Broken or damaged implies that you’re incomplete, damaged in a way that means you’ll never be what you could have been or that you’re in some way faulty. It’s a pitiful label that many people feel quick to hand out or to cast their insular judgements upon either others or the self. Is it something YOU believe to be true? Is it true you’re damaged because of what life has thrown at you? Does this really mean that YOU’RE damaged? Is it true that you are irreparable, tainted, or adulterated in a way that suggests that because of this you are not ‘Whole’? What does ‘whole’ mean? Whole indicates that you’re complete, have all your psychological, emotional and physical functions intact, working with efficiency-dare I say it-unbroken! But who actually is really WHOLE or DAMAGED? Are we not all brilliant, marvellous creations capable of mass change, shift and healing?

As for being human, this means you’re advantageously capable of ‘consciousness’ It means you’re capable of ‘choice and control’ based on your free will. You’re capable of perceiving, critiquing and choosing one thought or action over another based on your habits, preferences and conditioning, and that is the caveat too.

If by habit or conditioning you CHOOSE to believe you’re broken or damaged or worse still, believe in the unquestioned, pernicious opinions of others, then you will no doubt follow that judgement as a character flaw or trait and live by the limited standards in which it construes.

But...as you’re human – you’re also capable of NOT believing or accepting the insular beliefs and patterns of someone else's mind are you.  If you can ‘THINK’ then you can THINK in a different way, by which I mean ‘focus’ on a new or opposite belief – what will you get? Whole?, Complete? Perhaps you will or perhaps you will begin to see that the walls of social stigma and opinion are merely only that - fickle and fleeting opinion, but powerful enough to create self-fulfilling prophesies if we buy into them!

So how do we ‘change’ our ideas both socially and internally? The masses tend to follow thought and order, this is the way of the universe. However, if we choose to step out of that handed down ideas and ‘question’ the TRUTH of your thinking, in other words, question whether your thoughts are TRUE or have any evidence to support them, you will most likely find that they’re not or at least, obscured by our fears.

Possibly for years, decades or longer we have been buying into socially and culturally defined concepts and beliefs of what’s broken and whole, and just swallowing them up into the abyss of the internal workings of our mind like programmable robots, which penultimately leads to the outward effect that is called our actions and behaviours. These actions and behaviours then follow up by operationally executing those limited self or imposed or programmes and ideas of others, and so we behave in a way that we believe ourselves to be.

‘You are what you think, so within so without’, it’s all the same. What you believe your limits to be, will limit your choices to be anything greater than that belief. So, isn’t it time you questioned those opinions and beliefs and choose the character trait you would like to be, not damaged, broken or faulty – just human and free!

By A Montague 

At -www.transformhypnotherapy.co.uk

THE STRESSED OUT SCHOOL CHILD - HOW HYPNOTHERAPY CAN EASE EXAM PRESSRE.

IS YOUR CHILD STRESSED OR UNDER PRESSURE AT SCHOOL OR UNIVERSITY?

I am fortunate to also work at a senior level as a clinical Paediatric Occupational Therapist within the NHS where I am responsible for the standardised assessment and treatment of complex clinical conditions in children, alongside my professional practice as a Clinical Hypnotherapist. This means that I possess extensive knowledge of the schooling system, issues with physical and learning disabilities, neurological or developmental conditions in children and young people, including emotional and psychological issues.   This provides me with the experience and tools to swiftly get to the root of issues in children; using a successful approach that works in helping them feel and perform better.

If your child or someone you know is interested in Clinical Hypnotherapy for exam stress, self-esteem, confidence etc. get in touch to find out how I can immediately get results for your child.  ***Tel: 01229 343450/07900315690

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Self love, is it becoming extinct?

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Written By: A Montague  at Transform Clinical Hypnotherapy

Sometimes there are never any direct answers as to why people don't value or love themselves. However, quite often this self belief stems from unfortunate experiences from our past in one way or another.  We may have been let down, mistreated or failed by those that were supposed to care for us in our relationships, leaving us with a feeling of being innately flawed. 

However, by living in this limbo state of false belief, we inadvertently continue to hurt and deny ourselves and others our human right to be loved and to (be love), for we cannot expect to be loved, if we cannot first love ourselves. And so the extinction process is born.  Instead of a healthy evolution where we learn to love and value ourselves, it becomes a prophesied journey through our lives and relationships. 

What is loving our self? 

Loving yourself means accepting yourself for all your faults, quirks, and erroneous patterns of thinking and behaviour. This is what makes you quintessentially human, is it not! 

We can practice reaching the true 'self' your authentic self, in many ways that are personal to you or culturally defined, akin to your belief. This means, for some we may find our selves in our truest form when all the dogma, expectation, fear and prejudice are allowed to fall away, and not design our thinking any longer. 

When we strip away the social obligation of inherited conditioning, that is; (what we're expected to be in the eyes of others) we can breath enough to LET GO and explore the real stuff of ourselves, the self in its purist form. Metaphorically it is much like looking in the mirror and seeing the truest reflection of ourselves. 

How can we begin to do this?

One way is to begin by finding a quiet place in nature, prayerful meditation, or anywhere that gives us a sense of wonderment and solitude. 

We can then begin searching all the facets of ourselves; embracing them as not merely separate parts to be concealed but, as one whole, and it's that 'wholeness' that makes us who we are. 

Whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, only WE can find that life spark, that life force within ourselves. We must realise that we can't expect the world to give us what we need, when we don't even supply ourselves with our inner most needs. 

In fact, we are the key holders to our inward happiness. Our outward world is a reflection of our inner core beliefs, 'So within so without'. 
 

**To learn more about how hypnotherapy can help you reach this place for finding your true self and true identity-  email me on: info@transformhypnosis.co.uk


 

Change waiting, don't wait on change

Blog:  by A Montague

Why do we wait so long to change things that needed the heave ho yesterday?
Just about everyone has something they wish to change, to improve, get rid of, or completely change about their lives, right? No matter 'how' much we try and in our mind there's a part that argues..."how hard can it be.... I'll just..., I don't need help, I can do it myself...." We often find out.....Yes it is hard! With the best of intentions and the constant internal and external reminders that we need to change something, it takes effort and we often fall short of those good intentions and efforts.

ACTIVATION BRINGS MOTIVATION!
A=M - a simple, highly effective formula. What does this mean?
It means letting the 'self doubt mind chatter' or doubters, when we're embarking on that change, graciously float past us. By all means, acknowledge it, give it a nod, but let it pass by and do it anyway! Go for what you 'really' want to change. The very word Activation means taking action, creating energy, moving, doing something different or over and over until it sticks and the inner chatter gets fed up with trying to dissuade us because the 'positive benefits chatter' is eventually the loudest, with visible proof that Activation brings Motivation, Motivation brings more actions and more action brings 'change'!

So now what?

Decide WHAT it is you want to change. Whether it's losing weight, overcoming health problems, fears & phobias, confidence, infertility, stopping Smoking etc... and then boost your chances of actually succeeding by activating yourself to seek help, advice, or knowledge, on the thing that you really desire to change, get out, find out, and just start.
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